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Wednesday, October 23, 2019

1 Corinthians 8

S: 1 Corinthians 8:9 But make sure that this liberty of yours in no way becomes a stumbling block to the weak.

O: Paul was talking of people following pagan traditions of sacrificing food to idols, and if someone of knowledge or higher up was seen following old traditions, someone of lesser knowledge would think it was ok to follow suit. The higher up would be causing the lesser to sin.

A: The people we associate with are influencers. As are we. If we hang around people who sin, we are more likely to follow suit. And then those who see us do it might think “well if that so-called Christian can doit and be forgiven, I can do it too.” But we should set ourselves to “do first, ask for forgiveness later.”

If we are causing someone else to sin, we have also sinned against God. Romans 13:13-23 also talked about this. In Matthew 18:6-9, Jesus said, “Whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him to have a millstone hung around his neck and to be drowned in the depths of the sea.” And continues about if a hand causes us to sin, cut it off. Whether it is a specific food, a person, or a place, if it causes me to sin and may lead someone else to sin, I need to be done with it. 

K: Lord, you are most gracious for bestowing gifts upon me. Thank you for today and yesterday. I pray for tomorrow and each day coming that I will stay on the right path, with you guiding me. 

"Idol worship was a huge part of the culture in Corinth. Most of the new believers would have come out of this idolatry. So, eating meat sold in the market place, that had first been offered to idols, became an issue for the church.    Many in the church most likely suffered for their choice to follow God and so their conscience would not allow them to eat the meat offered to idols. It may have felt like a denial of Christ for them. So, Paul reminded the church that love should trump their freedom to eat meat.

Sacrificial love is needed in our churches today.  Freedom in Christ is a delicate balance.  While we are free to enjoy many things, we must consider if abstaining from certain things would be the more loving choice.  Have you been in a situation where you felt free to enjoy something that a sister or brother in Christ felt convicted about?  Is there an area where perhaps you need to abstain out of love for them?" (https://womenlivingwell.org/2019/09/good-morning-girls-resources-1-corinthians-6-10/)

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Monday, October 21, 2019

1 Corinthians 7

This chapter is definitely one that different religions have different views on. But, we are all here for God, and will respect each other’s points of views and thoughts. Also, we haven’t lived in each other’s shoes so we will not judge. I love each and every one of you for being here on the spiritual journey with me.

S: 1 Corinthians 7:13b-16 And if any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he is willing to go on living with her, she should not divorce her husband. For the unbelieving husband is made holy through his wife… Otherwise your children would be unclean, where as in fact they are healthy. 

If the unbeliever separates, however, let him separate. The brother or sister it not bound in such cases; God has called you to peace. For how do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband…

O: Paul emphasizes Jesus call against divorce is not the case in which one person is not baptized Christian. He extends a principle of non separation as long as the union is peaceful. If it is no, the unbeliever can ask for an out. (Apparently this is called the “Pauline privilege” in Catholic marriage legislation). 

A: This area was very hard to read, as I have an unbelieving husband. His history and beliefs is not on blog mode, and I will keep those secrets. After reading this chapter, I remember I once had fear that my beliefs would not being important, but the love and respect that my husband and I have for each other trumps those fears. He agreed when we got married that I would raise the kids Catholic, and he wouldn't stop me. 

Our marriage, like most, have had ups and downs. But we have not jumped for the exit. 

K: Lord, thank you for all the blessings you have given me, even those hard to understand. My love for my family is strong, but to you is stronger. Guide me down the path you have chosen for me, and I will do your Will.

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Friday, October 18, 2019

Are you being affirmed?


Image result for diapers  clothesline clipartWords of affirmation and praise are things that most people need. In relationships, both parties desire support and encouragement. Husbands are less likely to admit this need, though. Most husbands still do have a need to feel like they are the protector, that they are doing things right, that they are wanted and needed. This was hard for me to understand early on in our marriage, especially once we had children. I was the one up all night nursing and changing diapers. I would be the one to get up and get breakfast made, and get the kids ready for school before going to work. I would then go pick them up after work, go home make dinner, do homework with them, do bath time, put them to bed, and then when it was time for my husband and I to actually talk, I was drained. And then I was still to say thank you for him taking out the trash or doing the dishes once in a while? I never got a thank you. I was never encouraged to keep on keeping on.





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fter struggling with this for months, I found counsel with a Christian friend, who recommended I read The 5 Love Languages. It made me realize that acts of service is what made my bucket feel full and me loved. And I did love seeing my husband do the dishes, because I felt like I wasn't the only one taking care of things. But I also realized that my husband felt full when he was being affirmed. This may be as little as saying "thank you" for washing the dishes once a month, or giving encouraging words when he was feeling stressed about work. I didn't know that hearing these things for the tasks he did made him feel needed. I also delved deeper into the Bible, seeing that I should do my daily tasks for the glory of God, because He is the reason we are where we are. So lately, I try to remember to say praise and thanks for our house as I'm cleaning it, for the food as I'm cooking and washing dishes, for our provisions as I'm doing laundry, etc.


Even if words of affirmation isn't the top of your "need" list, hearing affirmation can make our hearts feel good. The action of giving words of affirmation is easier for some people than others, but we should learn to encourage one another. In the Bible, Elizabeth was a great example of affirmation of others. When Elizabeth heard Mary's greeting, and her baby jumped in her womb, she delivered the affirmation that we now have in our prayer Hail Mary. There are many young mothers who need to be affirmed, though not pitied. We all know being a new mom, a mom of several, or a mom without is hard. We all have face struggles now and again in this journey. What a blessing it could be to another mom if we just reached out and say "I just want you to know you matter. Everything you do matters. And God sees you." Older Christian women need to be godly roles for other women, as we are called to in Titus 2:3-5, "so they may train younger women to love their husbands and children..." I think that seeing another woman grow in her love for God can be just as encouraging and affirming as hearing "thank you."

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Wednesday, October 16, 2019

1 Corinthians 6

1 Corinthians 6:18-20 Avoid immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the immoral person sins against his own body. Did you not know that your body is a temple of the holy spirit within you, whom you have from God, and that you are not your own? For you have been purchased at a price. Therefore glorify God in your body.

O: Paul here tells the Corinthians that through the death of Jesus, God has purchased our beings. And the body should be used to glorify God, not for our own selfish wants and desires.

A: Our body is a temple. If we hold the Holy Spirit in us through communion, we are like the sacred temple and ark that held the Holy Spirit in the Old Testament.  Would we allow any destruction to come upon the ark or the sacred temple? Then why upon ourselves?

However your church celebrates communion, each time when you receive communion, you are taking the promise of God and consuming it. You are accepting the Holy Spirit within you, and you belong to God. We consume the Eucharist weekly at our church, and this passage is a great reminder that I am taking in the promise of God into my body, which belongs to him. And I shall not allow myself to indulge in anything that would tamper my body. But instead I will glorify the Lord. 

K: Lord thank you for all the blessings in my life. Thank you for the greatest gift, your son, so that I might be saved. Thank you for the Holy Spirit so that I may remember that I belong to you. Thank you for wanting me. 

"Our bodies are a temple of the Holy Spirit and a temple is a sacred place of worship.  We are meant to keep our bodies pure sexually because we are not our own.  We have been bought with the price of Jesus’ blood.  This means that we have strength that the world does not have, to remain pure.

When you use something that someone else paid for, are you more careful with it?  Our bodies are on lend to us from God to be used for his glory.  How can you be more careful with your body?  If you have any sins that you need to repent of today, quietly pray a prayer of confession.  Remember that once you confess, you are fully forgiven. (1 John 1:9)" (https://womenlivingwell.org/2019/09/good-morning-girls-resources-1-corinthians-6-10/)

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Monday, October 14, 2019

1 Corinthians 5

S: 1 Corinthians 5:6b-8 Do you not know that a little yeast leavens all the dough? Clear out the old yeast, so that you may become a fresh batch of dough, inasmuch as you are unleavened. For our Paschal lamb, Christ, has been sacrificed. Therefore, let us celebrate the feast, not with the old yeast, the yeast of malice and wickedness, but with the unleavened bread of sincerity and truth.

O: Paul knew there was wickedness in the community. Here, yeast is a symbol of corruption that spreads throughout the community.

Yeast, as you probably know, works by consuming sugars and lets off carbon dioxide and alcohol derivatives. That’s how the bread rises and gets fluffy. Funny is that yeast itself is a single cell fungus. Paul, using yeast as a symbol here, shows that it only take a single person or thing to consume the goodness of a Christian and cause them to become full of themselves, emit sins, and not have room for God. 

A: Paul was calling for the Corinthians to “clear out the old yeast”, or those in the community who were corrupt, and begin as a new “fresh batch” of people for Christ. He wanted them to be like unleavened bread, and God wants us that way today. 

In verses 9-12, it shows he wasn’t asking us to remove ourselves from all immoral people, as we can’t remove ourselves from the world, but rather those in our closer area. If there were people in my group of friends that could be considered the “bad yeast” I should remove myself from them. Same for those who have vices, they would remove them from their house. Wanting to stop eating sweets or drinking Coke? Remove them from your house. Easier said than do, I know. #goals

Stop associating with people (or things) that go against your call as a Christian. Otherwise, you will become corrupted. I had to learn the hard way to stop allowing infectious people in my life, because once in, no matter how hard I tried, they dragged me down. 

K: Lord, thank you for all the blessings in my life. Thank you for the hard times, as I didn’t think of them as blessings then, but now see Your goodness from them. Thank you for the women in this study. I pray we continue to be lights for each other, and continue the encouragement for growth as women in Christ.

"Sexual immorality had defiled the church in Corinth.  Paul called on the church to purify itself by removing those who were sinning in arrogance, in hopes that they would become repentant.  These instructions were specifically for those inside the church and it was meant to be a loving act, seeking restoration.  Those outside the church were not to be judged by the church but rather left for God to be the judge.
Have you experienced the church winking at the sin of those inside the church while judging harshly those outside the church?  While it may seem loving to overlook the sins of those inside the church, it hurts the holiness of the church and those participating in the sin.  But we cannot hold those outside the church to the same standard. In what ways have you been too judgmental of those outside the church and how can you show more love to those who are lost in their sin?" (https://womenlivingwell.org/2019/09/its-time-to-begin-intro-and-resources-for-1-corinthians-1-5/)
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Friday, October 11, 2019

Appreciation of my mother


Image may contain: people sitting and indoorI know I wasn’t truly as appreciative all those years ago. All the times she stayed up after bedtime or worked during nap-time, sewing clothes. For all the hours she put in spray painting shoes, measuring, pinning, cutting, re-pinning, sewing, ripping and re-sewing, adding sequence or feathers to dance, band, Halloween or skit costumes. All the cutting, sanding, painting, building, crafting sets for band or Jr. Beta skits. Now it’s my turn to start the journey of wondering why my back hurts. And all the pain staking hours are so worth it to see their face light up. Thanks momma! And thank you to all the many parents who helped make things for us all those years ago. 

My mom had given me a binder a year or so back full of costumes patterns that she used for us when we were younger. Well, a few weeks ago I figured it was time to pull it out if I had any chance of making costumes before Halloween. Katie is going to be a unicorn, since she has a unicorn dress from her 4th birthday party. All I need to do is make the unicorn horn more "magical." Got it. Also, my church group is having a Trunk Or Treat at the end of October, so I need to work on my unicorn magic trunk. So, I let Hunter and Jeanne go through the binder and choose. Hunter decided to be a Jack o' lantern, and Jeanne wanted a poodle skirt. 

Image may contain: 1 person, sitting and indoorWhen I pulled the patterns out of their little envelopes, so many emotions and memories flooded me. I can paint a picture of my mother's utility room floor covered with material and pattern pieces, pins, measuring tape, and I couldn't wait to jump in. After reading the instructions, re-reading them two more time, and writing down all what I needed (man, that was a lot of stuff), off to Jo-Ann's I went. At this time, my mom was on a trip without phone service, so I couldn't call her to ask a few questions that I didn't remember. It had been 7 years since I last read a pattern. What was the selvage? How do I figure the grain flow? There was a really nice lady at JoAnn's who helped me out best she could. That trip was fun, looking through all the material and things I would need to get to replenish my lack of sewing tools.

I washed the orange and green material, and waited to iron it the next day. Cotton wrinkles. And I had a tiny ironing board that I had had since 2008 with a really thin padding underneath. I went to Target and got a grown up size ironing board. 😀I re-ironed the material and started pinning and cutting. Same for the fleece insides. Fleece stretches, and that made cutting frustrating. I had bought a cut rotary cutter, thinking it would help my cutting go faster (and I swear my mom had one), but I wasn't sure how to get the blade to keep exposed. So I held the button down and started using it, only to realize a minute or two later as I had a burning sensation in my thumb and had blood on the material, that I should not have been holding it down. Googled and saw just using it forced the shield to go down. Duh! Bandaged my thumb and got back at it. Wouldn't be the last mistake I was sure.


Image may contain: 1 person, smiling, standing and indoorOnce I got all of Hunter's pieces cut out, I started pinning and piecing things together for the body. After the fact, next time I will try to cut cotton out with my pinking shears. It became really stringy on the inside and the edges frayed. Then I went to put on the Jack o' lanterns face. I cut out the pieces of black felt, put them on the  brand new ironing board, put the bonding material on top, and ironed the felt to my ironing board cover. 😑Well that was dumb. I tried to peel the sticky goo off the cover, and got most of it off. I then saw that the bonding material should have been ironed to the entire felt piece, then cut out. I was not able to get all the goo off the cover no matter how many different ways I tried. So I just ran to Target and got a new cover (put that under house expense on the budget). 

The cording and elastic were also fun (not fun) times. I put the safety pin through the 1/8" cording and tried to ease it through the 1/4" seam. I lost count how many times the pin pulled through the cording and I had to start over. I finally got 2 inches from the end the last time, when it pulled through. I was so frustrated, but just ripped the seam  there, fished the cording through, held it close to the top, re-stitched the seam, and called it good. The elastic at the bottom was just as tough. It didn't get lost, but they asked for 1/2" elastic to go through a 1/4" seam. Not possible. So I made a 1/2" seam, right? Well it was still tough, and after my fingers cramped, I finally got it through just to see it all twisted. I only know a few words in French (the ones my grandma used when she was mad at us), and they are the ones I chose to use at this moment. There were a few other moments with the leaves and the hat, but it finally all came together. Hunter was so excited to be able to try it on, and loved to get to bounce around with the newspaper inside making funny noises.

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Then I started on the skirt with cats, not poodles. I laid out the material on my table, and noticed the material looked short. The pattern extended over it. I refolded the material, and tried again. Nope. So I ironed the material, hoping it would give me the few extra inches. Again, nope. I measure it. Yes, it was 1 3/8 yards I requested. But I didn't think to look for 60" width material. This one was only 50". 😡Back to JoAnn's I guess. Then I looked online, and you can order from JoAnn's and pick it up! Yes please. So I placed the order for the same color (because I already had the thread and zipper to match), and picked it up later. I didn't have to go search for it and wait for it to be cut. Awesome! Later that day (or the next- it all runs together now), I took the pattern back out and began cutting. She is tiny for her age, so I cut based on her measurements. I have a lot of felt left over, for future fun projects. 

No photo description available.The skirt was easier to cut and get started, being that it is felt. I cut out the cats and trim for the front. I had some liquid stitch that was several years old, and tried to use that to no avail. So pulled out the hot glue gun, and got the trim on. Managed to get the bonding material on the cats with no problem this time (I actually used the old cover on top the new cover to make sure I didn't mess up the new one). It came out rather nice. The instructions called for black thread to do the eyes and nose, but I used a pen. I may go back and hand stitch over the ink, though Jeanne seemed to love it as is. The trick part of the skirt was the zipper. I don't have a zipper foot for the sewing machine, and didn't want to go buy one, so I did the best I could with what I had. It's not perfect, but she can't tell. Next was getting the waistband on. I ripped that two or three times, before getting it where it was supposed to be. After getting her to try it on a few times I noticed it is still a little big around her waist. Luckily the last two Halloweens have been pretty cold, so I'm banking on her having to wear sweat pants and tights underneath, so hopefully that will help hold it up. 
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She loves it! Now I just need to find the right shirt to go with it. Though it may not matter, if we are having to wear sweat shirts. It's hard to find plain colored sweatshirts for kids at the stores here. Now Katie keeps asking when I will get to her magical unicorn. That'll be next  on the list, once I am done with Hunter's birthday planning! Never a dull moment.









Wednesday, October 9, 2019

Learning to Drive

So today, as I was bringing my youngest to pre-k, I noticed I was behind a student driver. We needed to get to the grocery store, because someone ate all the bread and lunch meat that I had planned out for the week, and Katie needs lunch for school. At first, I had a hint of frustration because this road is not passable and because I had to go to the store. Then, I quickly thought again. That driver is learning. He/she is probably very fearful at the moment, taking this test on wet roads. This is a new experience for him/her. There are several curves to get around carefully on the wet
road for an experienced driver, much less a new one. Who am I to get mad because they are driving a little slow?

Katie asked why we were going slow, and I mentioned the car in front of us having a student driver. She looked through the window and said "yes its because they have cheese on their head." (The car had the yellow sign on top saying "Student driver." Ha!

Then I realized how mad I have been getting at my own student drivers for being slow. This world, these tasks, daily expectations of school, life, homework, soccer, dance, etc. is new, has its own curves and wet roads, and perhaps is fearful to my own kids. Who am I to get mad at them for taking things slow? And why is it easier for me to be patient for someone else but not for my own children?

I know when I get frustrated at my children for being slow, it's usually because I didn't prepare myself enough for whatever the next task is going to be, and I didn't plan ahead to have little hands like to try to tie their own shoes or zip their own jackets, or can't find the matching shoe. I am rushing and honking my horn at my kids to move out the way because I didn't get myself together. It would only require me to do a little more prep work. Before bed, have them get their shoes in their buckets (so they match in the morning). If there is an extra minute in the morning, remind them they have soccer and to put their gear in their bags to change into after school. And make it a point in my day to double check their attempt to be organized and make sure all the stuff if by the door, ready to go.

Then, I need to be like the driver teacher. Just sit in the passenger seat, and let them take the wheel (while keeping my foot on the emergency break!).

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